Effective Impact- Learn From This Story

Have you ever heard the story of the giant ship engine that failed?
The ship's owners tried one expert after another, but none of them could figure out how to fix the engine.

Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing ships since he was a youngster. He carried a large bag of tools with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work.
He inspected the engine very carefully, top to bottom.
Two of the ship's owners were there, watching this man, hoping he would know what to do. After looking things over, the old man reached into his bag and pulled out a small hammer.

He gently tapped something. Instantly, the engine lurched into
life. He carefully put his hammer away. The engine was fixed!

A week later, the owners received a bill from the old man for ten thousand dollars.
"What?!" the owners exclaimed. "He hardly did anything!"
So they wrote the old man a note saying, "Please send us an itemized bill."

The man sent a bill that read:
Tapping with a hammer ......$ 2.00
Knowing where to tap .......$ 9,998.00
GRAND TOTAL …….…$10,000.00

Moral of the story;
Effort is important, but knowing where to make an effort in your life makes all the difference.
Always have the insight of where to tap whenever you are faced with the
dangers and worrisome situations associated with the decisions of today.

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Bribery is Bribery, Name It What...

I have devoted much time trying to understand and come to term with the nature of humanity but it seems like chasing after the wind.
We have lost all; morality, moderateness and discipline to individual's selfish desires.

To make it seem less offensive and appropriate, we term it with informal words.
What has competitive fee, grant of favour and token for appreciation got to do with upright living.

Let's for once be truthful to ourselves.
You went for a contract and you resolve to pay a bribe in other to get the deal; to coax and make it seem pleasant, you referred it as a competitive fee to show seriousness and competitive attitude.

You got to a filling station and you told the attendant you would grant him a favor of some amount of money to get attended to ahead of others.

You employed a worker and asked him to pay some token as a sign of appreciation.

Which ever way you term it or however less offensive you make it look, a bribe is a bride.

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Does How Long You (Ladies) Take to Accept a Friendship Matter?

By taking eternity to accept a relationship doesn't make you expensive and also accepting a relationship right away doesn't make you cheap. I do understand why some girls have to be that way, and it's for the fear of looking easy and cheap and also attracting weak niggas or you probably think that guys are meant to sweat hard and put in severe effort before they deserve you. Oh you still think like this; Girls are meant to attract guys and guys are meant to put in some effort to get it if they really like it. You wrong. My great sisters, Let go of that dumb mentality, what really make you cheap is what you contribute to the relationship. The truth is that the level of your dependability on your man increases or decreases your worth. I mean your contribution to the relationship does. Demanding too much from a guy you just started dating and allowing him have sex with you... be it immediately after accepting his proposal or regularly in the course of the relationship does... Some girls have lost some good guys all in the name of forming hard to get! Accepting a guy immediately he approached you or you took eternity before accepting him, a guy that will cherish you will!!! I keep saying this, ladies quit watching too much romantic movies. It gives you unrealistic expectations from guys, and same it does to guys that watch porn. All these ruin relationship...

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LOVE OR LUST? WHICH LED TO YOUR MARRIAGE.

After some months of marriage, you are then struck with the arrows of reality.
He doesn't seem to be what I had known him to.
She's not totally what I had expected.
He pays less attention to me now.
She is no better than other ladies.

But some months back you said these to her or him;
You are my everything...
I can't do without you...
My world is meaningless without you...
You are my life...

Were you dreaming when you said these.
I do understand why there's so many broken homes today...
When love or lust is gone, the two bodies are exposed to all imperfections.

Get this, there will be a time in your married life when those feelings won't feel like it again as stated from the beginning, marrying some one only because you love him or her is a lame excuse.
Marriage is more than a mere love conviction.
Did you check his or her approach to life, his or her driving force, his or her relationship with others. If he or she has the same vision as yours. There must be a meeting point of ideas from both partners. Then other differences is loved-up or covered by love.

Without this, you might end up marrying out of lust.
Today society has made it even difficult to tell lust from love. A man or woman shouldn't be judged by physical appearance only but of inside.
Sadly many don't have much going inside but outside.
If you consider outside before inside, you are actually taking to the direction of lust.
Beauty is in vain.
Charm is deceit.

Remember:
There will be a time when those emotions won't feel like... What will you do then?
And you probably ain't the only one he or she is passionate about.
Also that a failed Marriage is a humiliating confirmation of transitory of flesh or lust

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WHO'S THE BOSS, CHILDREN OR PARENTS.

With the ever increasing influence of children over parents in numerous homes today, one can't help but ask who's the boss.
But what's the reason behind parents relinquishing authority to children as increasing common in today homes.
My conviction for this is civilization, parents resolved to being a friend but not an authority figure to the children which is encouraged in the modern home for a reason or the other, primarily to avoid their children from resenting them.
Surprisingly, every child has a self esteem, how did this come to be?

Experts claim, rather than correct the bad, catch your children in the act of doing good which only implies making them feel good.
Now tell me, do you rather prefer a child to feel good to a child being good.
No doubt it's necessary to instill confidence in children but the self esteem encouragement on children seems to be taking an odd direction.
Keep telling your children they're special and they can be whatever they wish to be.
And this has made many children feel entitled to everything and render them clueless about the reality.
If you haven't seem this, I have. A child let's say junior was asked to stop a particular thing but he countered he won't stop.
And you probably want to instill that order by the parent, the parent would beg you to leave him alone before he starts...
Starts what?
His tantrum she would say.

Junior insisted on getting a particular toy he saw at market even though he has many at home, and his parent gave in simply to avoid his tantrum.

Junior's hot-headed behavior caused him to damage a property belonging to another, instead of bringing discipline to action, you rather say in a mild voice, Junior you have seen what you have caused?

In fact there was a girl who was so used to crying nonstop at home but doesn't do that at school. When I asked her why, she said there's no one who would tell her sorry in the school.

What are your children learning?
You are simply instilling that child that he's comfort is your priority and you can do anything to get it done. But you don't know you're making yourself vulnerable to the child's demand.
Don't you think with time your children will come to think you're only there to serve their needs.
Don't you think your children will have the impression that you will bend to their demands with their tantrum.

Why praise your child even when he has done nothing praiseworthy. You feel that once they feel special, they now have the confidence to succeed in life. That's wrong.

I know parenting is a hard work but it's even harder if you allow the children to be the boss.

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