How to Speak Well

How to Communicate Effectively
Attaining Effective Communication
Secrets of Good Communication


It is no new thing that communication is most used tool in our every day life. Where ever you find yourself at a time you need communication. Whether in the market, working place, at home, in the meeting, name any place, communication is most needed and thus we can't live without it. Through communication, there's a revelation of our personality—a blending of traits, thought patterns and mannerisms.

Communication involves two factors - speaking and listening.
Speaking is making or getting your thoughts across to others. While it's necessary to get people to understand you, it's important to also hear what they've got to say.
Here listening comes in, in as much as you would like to be heard, people you're talking to also love to be heard.

For the sake of this post, I shall be dwelling on how to speak well.
Bear it in mind that when your are talking, you ain't listening. Always think before you say anything.
Below are tips on how to speak to others.

• One of the reasons people get nervous when speaking is because they don't like the unknown; that's why you have to gather as much information as possible when you speak.



• Always bear in mind that the better part of speaking well is knowing what not to say.



• Speaking quietly or softly will make people think you are shy and that you don't have confidence in what you're saying -- that you don't really want to be heard anyway. While you don't want to shout, you should speak loudly enough so that people don't have to ask you to repeat yourself.



• Build your self-esteem by focusing on something you're good at, addressing your flaws, and spending time with the people who really care about you and make you feel good about yourself.



• Before you speak, remind yourself about how important the message that you have to convey is, and why conveying it matters to you.



• If you focus less on yourself, you will feel less self-conscious and more like a messenger, and that will take off a lot of the pressure.



• Audiences want you to be interesting, stimulating, informative and entertaining. They’re rooting for you. Think positively about what you have to do before you begin and know that no one wants you to trip, stumble over your words, or forget what you were going to say.



• Pauses may seem as though you are forgetful or you don't know what to say while you are speaking, but in reality, they can be used to grab the audience's attention. If people are losing interest in your speech, or you need to emphasize something, just take a pause!



• If you are in a room of strangers, think about people you love and imagine them cheering you on.



• Visualize yourself giving your speech. Imagine yourself speaking, your voice loud, clear and confident. Visualize the audience clapping – it will boost your confidence. Close your eyes and imagine the most confident and well-spoken version of yourself up in the audience, dazzling them with his words.



• Most importantly, don't portray an exaggerated amount of confidence, or you will come off as arrogant and overconfident. There's nothing worse than coming across as believing that your ideas are better than the ideas of everyone else.