Your Pain, A Pointer To Your Destiny

What makes you break down and make you wish that you should do something about a
particular situation even when you might not be able to do anything at that point.
Now i don't mean pain like the general pain you feel when something bad happens to you or around you. I mean the pain that you can't just adjustyourself to resist.

It comes from the deepest part of your heart and yet the person beside you cannot feel any hurt for an issue like that.
What do you think that made a well brought
up, affluent, privileged son of the Princess kill
another man not minding the outcome of it?
PAIN!!!
He was hurt seeing his fellow people in pain anddistress, no wonder God sent him(Moses) back to deliver them(Israelites) from the hands of Pharoah.

Listen, this pain can be for anything. Walt
Disney had this same pain for low quality
Amusement Parks with fake carousels and of
course you know what he did; Disneyland. This pain can be for seeing people intimidated,
seeing people under bondage, seeing blind
people, hearing about corruption, dirty
environment, hearing about theft in your
country. It just kindles in you an unusual
anger that nobody else can explain but you.

For example, honestly you can't tell the pain i feel when i see 'Mediocrity' and 'Ignorance' in
display. I just hate Ignorance and Mediocrity.
I mean I HATE it. Funny enough, i care less whether the whole street is filled with mud and pure water sachet. I don't feel any pain aboutit. Am just not designed for Environmental Care.

Someone else can enter a city and feel
like walking through the whole place to pick
litters from the ground. We have different
pains for different things. Find yours!
Of course God Almighty too felt pain when he
saw humans being destroyed under the
dominion of the devil and he did something
about it for sure; He sent Jesus Christ. (I just
love this part). Find out what pains you most in life, its a pointer to the problems you were
created to solve.

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What Happens When You Don't Know The Time To Adjust And Confront

Put a frog in a vessel of water and begin warming the water. As the temperature of the water rises, the frog can adjust its body temperature accordingly. The frog continues adjusting with rise in temperature.

Exactly when the water is going to achieve boiling point, the frog is not ready to adjust any longer.

By then the frog chooses to jump out. The frog tries to hop yet can't do as such, on the ground that it has lost its entire being in adjusting with the rising water temperature...
Very soon the frog dies.

What killed the frog?

Large number of us would say the boiling water, yet the fact of the matter is the thing that killed the frog was its own powerlessness to choose when it needed to jump out.

We all need to change or adjust with individuals and circumstances, however we should make sure when we have to modify or adjust and when we have to defy, Confront or face.

There are times when we have to confront the circumstance and make the move.

In the event that we permit individuals to adventure us physically, rationally, candidly or fiscally, they will keep on doing so...We need to choose when to bounce.

Let us jump while we have the strength...

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Who is a Role Model And How They Influence Us

I asked a young lady one time who she gazed upward to as a role model and she said 'Kim Kardashian'.

Before I began laughing(because I chuckled genuine great), I inquired her what's more, I couldn't comprehend why she would take Kim as a role model in light of the fact that they don't have anything in common(facially).

I came to get it that she really didn't know whom a role model is.
A good example is a "model" of the
"part" that you were intending to play on earth.

A good example is somebody who is now living in your future. He or She is somebody who is doing something you were made to do.

Presently, every man has somebody who "actually" rouses them whether he or she is rich or poor. That man whose life makes you buckle up is your good example.

When you hear or see somebody who is really your role model, you see your future in them. On the off chance that you can completely check your heart and figure out who that individual is that regardless of the fact that he is poor, you would at present admire admire to do what he or her is doing, at that point whatever that individual is doing is a pointer whatever you were made to do.

I was addressing deliberately on a speech in a secondary school and I asked the understudies about their good examples, numerous called off-screen characters and also, on-screen characters; in the mean time those ones can't indeed, even act a typical "dozing" scene before a three-man group of onlookers.

When you have a part model, you can do whatever you see him do and that is the thing that persuades you. The book of scriptures says 'profound calleth unto profound' (psalms42:7). When you refer to that man that is your mirror, then whatever you find in him is the thing that you were made to be.

For me to have a footballer or a a Performer as a role model is stupidity to the furthest.
When you have a genuine good example, you MUST have something in like manner. When I see men like Sam Adeyemi, Fela Durotoye, David
Oyedepo, John Maxwell and so on. I get roused and spurred. They touch off something within.

They are living in "my" future. Presently, you as well have such individuals throughout your life, whatever such individuals are doing is a "pointer" to what you are expected to do.

How about we go to the book of scriptures please; Elisha was from a
rich family, why did he take after Elijah, Joshua was an Ephraimite why did he take after a Levite (Moses), why did Matthew leave his legislature work to take after Jesus, why did Timothy take after Paul, and at last why do we christians have Jesus as our good example; on the grounds that when you see somebody who is doing what you where destined to do; it blends up something inside you that you can't simply overlook. You will be actually enlivened.

The inquiry is, in whose "present" do you see your "future" paying little respect to the cash?
Presently, that paper you composed those 20 things that are your obsession and have striked out those that are not your torment, the staying ones, locate the ones that are joined with both your gifts and your good examples then you are a step closer to finding your motivation in life.

Credit: Chiazoka Obinwa

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Who is a Role Model And How They Influence Us?

I asked a young lady one time who she gazed upward to as a role model and she said 'Kim Kardashian'.

Before I began laughing(because I chuckled genuine great), I inquired her of what's more, I couldn't comprehend why she would take
Kim as a good example in light of the fact that they don't have anything in common(facially).

I came to get it that she really didn't know whom a role model is.
A good example is a "model" of the"part" that you were intending to play on earth.

A good example is somebody who is now living in your future. He or she is somebody who is doing something you were made to do.

Presently, every man has somebody who "actually" rouses them whether he or she is rich or poor. That man whose life makes you buckle up is your good example.

When you hear or see somebody who is really your role model, you see your future in them. On the off chance that you can completely check your heart and figure out who that individual is, regardless of the fact that he is poor, you would at present admire to do what he or her is doing, at that point whatever that individual is doing is a pointer to whatever you were made to do.

I was addressing deliberately on a discourse in a secondary school and I asked the understudies about there role models, numerous called off-screen characters and also, on-screen characters; in the mean time those ones can't indeed, even act a typical "dozing" scene before a three-man group of onlookers.

When you have a part model, you can do whatever you see him do and that is the thing that persuades you. The book of scriptures says 'profound calleth unto profound' (psalms42:7). When you refer to that man that is your mirror, then whatever you find in him is the thing that you were made to be.

For me to have a footballer or a Performer as a role model is stupidity to the furthest.
When you have a genuine good example, you MUST have something in like manner. When I see men like Sam Adeyemi, Fela Durotoye, David
Oyedepo, John Maxwell and so on. I get roused and spurred. They touch off something within.

They are living in "my" future. Presently, you as well have such individuals throughout your life, whatever such individuals are doing is a "pointer" to what you are expected to do.

How about we go to the book of scriptures please; Elisha was from a
rich family, why did he take after Elijah, Joshua was an Ephraimite why did he take after a Levite (Moses), why did Matthew leave his legislature work to take after Jesus, why did Timothy take after Paul, and at last why do we christians have Jesus as our good example; on the grounds that when you see somebody who is doing what you where destined to do; it blends up something inside you that you can't simply overlook. You will be actually enlivened.

The inquiry is, in whose "present" do you see your "future" paying little respect to the cash?
Presently, that paper you composed those 20 things that are your obsession and have striked out those that are not your torment, the staying ones, locate the ones that are joined with both your gifts and your good examples then you are a step closer to finding your motivation in life.

Credit: Chiazoka Obinwa

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Do You Have Lament Issues?

At a point, your brain irritates you with the "what ifs".
Yet, you have to settle on a decision,
furthermore, if the decision you made turned out to be wrong, you begin being sorry.
It is hard to go over with second thoughts or regrets.

You may have picked your calling of the man or lady that you cherish. You might have committed a child rearing error that brought about your tyke to abhor you. You quit your profession with another one which at last ended up being a losing profession.

At the point when these things happen you just need so awful to turn back the hands of time so you can settle on your decisions once more.

Regrets possess a significant space in our psyches, enough to irritate our life. This is particularly valid for the individuals who are inclined to over the top deduction like me. There were times when I squandered an excess of hours of my day in regret over huge and even little decisions that include the ordinary situations in life like vocation, child rearing, and those identified with connections.

We will dependably have laments, however we have to discover approaches to abstain from permitting these second thoughts to make a permanent imprint in our lives, particularly in our
connections.

Here are a portion of the things I've
done and will keep on doing at whatever point I fall into the hands of "disappointments".

1. Transform laments into goodness: We can never turn back the hands of time. In this way, on the off chance that you picked profession over the lady or man you had always wanted, make revises by adoring the following lady or man in your live with your entire being, soul and psyche. Be the best being you can ever be.

2. Rehearse the Peacefulness Petition to God: "acknowledge the
things you can't change, change the things you can, and attempt your best to recognize the two." I am yet to locate an impeccable guardian.
Try not to obsess about your child rearing errors that brought on a break in your association with your
child or little girl. Rather than struggling with your oversights, change the things you can. Attempt your best next time. Rather than saying, "If just I did various things... " begin saying "Next time, I will do various things... "

3. Compose your second thoughts in a bit of paper, then blaze it: Clinicians say that when you work out what you should do, you have better changes of deleting it from your psyche. I did this; I blazed my second thoughts, and it was an extraordinary feeling!

4. Keep in mind that nobody is great: We will at last commit an error, one way or the other. Quit beating yourself for a blunder you've made. What is critical is that you settled on a decision and took the danger; you moved out of your solace
zone to have a go at something new. Danger could bring about missteps. Be that as it may, chance likewise opens up the difficulties and opportunities that could prompt victory.

5. Life squares with issues: Regardless of the possibility that you made the right decision, issues can at present emerge. That is just the way it is; that is only the way life is. Making the right decision is not a flush and rehash sort of business achievement. Life carries with it the
situation, "once in a while you lose, now and again you win." Along these lines, to abstain from being repentant, acknowledge this unavoidable truth.

6. Try not to accuse yourself, other individuals, or even occasions: Change your musings of "If just," to
"Today or now, I will... " Spotlight on the present furthermore, the future; don't harp on your past.

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5 Ways Men Can Avoid Philandering

Philandering is a demonstration that is dominating among men and ladies alike.To a few men, this demonstration appear to be typical because of the mistaken conviction that men can be polygamous, yet some ladies experience philandering because of narcissistic or even sociopathic attitude.

Be that as it may, as they say, it is a remorseless universe of men and
generally the ladies are in a bad way of this heedless demonstration so this review is coordinated to men and ladies alike yet with more clarity of mind on the men and this review will list 5 ways you can anticipate philandering or decrease the demonstration to the barest least.

Accept that it is a foolhardy and dangerous act to you mentally,physically, financially and profoundly: Yes as sweet as philandering may appear to be, it is an extremely damaging act in light of the fact that it can lead you to interminable pulverization of your
soul as the Quran and Book of scriptures proposed and i trust your spirit is worth more than the shaky
energy of investigating numerous passing traps in the name of ladies.

Asides this you can promptly contract lethal diseases and numerous men have had sexual experiences with distinctive profound creatures for the sake of ladies and not overlooking the way that in most cases, the demonstration of philandering tend to make you spend too much as you should spend on the side chicks every once in a while just to fulfill your licentious yearning.

Understand that Philandering is more than a normal unfortunate propensity however a devilishly impacted act: I have dependably advised numerous women that
they can not pester or quarrel a man out of philandering but rather can just supplicate him out of it on the grounds that most times, the men who enjoy it are impacted by evil spirits so in the event that you are a man who needs to stop or keep this, then you must be willing to appeal to GOD to keep the soul from having you and to offer you some assistance with casting it out of
you on the grounds that this is one act you can not stop all alone.

Go for a woman that turns you on physically: I continuously have a trademark that i will rather remain
single for life than wed a lady that does not speak to me physically. Yes they say picking a wife is more than the physical qualities yet in any case i trust you can continuously get a woman who has a decent quality as well as a decent physical advance.

Why ought to a man who adores a bootilicious woman settle for a level ass? What's more, on the off chance that you adore a major body woman, why settle for a thin one?

On the off chance that you adore a well proportioned woman and you settle for a little glass measure then you could possibly fantasize about gigantic bust at whatever point you make out with a wife with a little bust, this is never-ending self perpetrated subjugation in light of the fact that there are billions of women out there single and prepared to blend so why pick the one that does not turn you on just by her physical appearance.

Accept the way that no woman has the syndication of excellence: Regardless of how hot or ostensibly wonderful your lady might be, there
will dependably be a woman sexier and more appealing than her out there and you are certain to meet
a hefty portion of such so on the off chance that you are the sort who can't detract his eyes from each attractive maiden, at that point you could possibly be on a most optimized plan of attack to your
grave in light of the fact that you can never exceed these little girls of eve who are continually ready to
demonstrate to you the quickest approach to damnation. Simply make that decision and do your best to keep up your decision by offering her some assistance with retaining her hot figure in at any rate you can.Learn to acknowledge and be
content with what you have on the grounds that in real fact, its the same gap and same pleasure, just
that the abilities varies so show her the abilities instead of settling for a facade in name of assortments or variety.

It takes the trepidation of GOD and incredible control to get rid of philandering: It is for all intents and purposes practically unimaginable for a man who does not fear GOD to halt from this pleasurable however fatal act, so as a woman you must ask and attempt to lead your man closer to GOD in light of the fact that if a man fears
GOD then obviously he will make you upbeat furthermore. For the man, please comprehend that you
must for all intents and purposes go closer to GOD so that your love and trepidation for him will keep you far from this demonstration.

Yes the demonstration of philandering is an act that has a tendency to oppress any defenseless individual and it is not something anybody can simply wish away but rather with GOD i trust that it can be avoided.

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My Extraordinary Apprehension For Some Nigeria Old maids

Do you realize that 7 out of 10 women have battled all their life right from adolescence to adulthood?

Will you accuse such women in the event that they decline to wed a man who can not brag of an salary sufficient to deal with a gang?

The economy of this nation has made it so troublesome that even a man that makes 150k a month dares not consider marriage considering the way it is commended in Nigeria,
what's more, when you evacuate month to month costs from your 150k you wil be left with little or
nothing subsequently putting something aside for a wedding service will not even ring a bell.

Presently lets ask ourselves,how numerous men even in their 30s have employments paying 100k or more?
What number of are even productively utilized?

8 out of 10 women have no reason been single indeed, even at 25yrs of age YES you read right yet the
issue is with these women.

An average Nigerian woman will express all she needs in a man yet regardless of the fact that she conceals the "Must be monetarily alright" part,it is extremely clear that the monetary viewpoint to her is much more essential than the fellow being GOD fearing.

So before, they have likely had folks that are seen as poor by them essentially requesting that they be their wife but since by her standard,the fellow is not fiscally alright enough, ITS A NO and
bit by bit they get more established.

So the primary concern is that 8 out of 10 women need a financially alright men and in Nigeria of today, just 2 out of 10 folks are financially alright, so the 8 women group around these two folks and since these 2 folks now acknowledge they are hot cakes, they simply play around with these 8 women, furthermore, dump them for other new women and these women who are urgently searching for a financially steady fellow to wed winds up getting to be single and
squandering their time with these 2 folks with the trust that these 2 folks will wed the 8 women; furthermore, the ceaseless insane circle proceeds.

This is the reason i fear for Some Nigerian old maids furthermore, until they decide to begin an existence
with a man regardless of the fact that despite everything he is struggling, we will keep on having insane increment in the number of found middle single women.

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The Seemingly Effect of Lust Mistaken As Love

You meet a guy or a woman and you hit if off instantly with the individual, both of you can't appear to hear enough of one another's voice,chatting turned out to be so normal and you just begin to envision being around the individual continuously and each type of eccentricities of that individual feels so cool with you.

At that point after a short while,maybe days,weeks or months the correspondence wanes and you indeed, even care less if such individual exists and you have a tendency to inquire as to whether that was the same individual you felt so passionate to in only later past.

You meet someone else and after that the circle starts just to go the past route and on and on you encounter this endless tsunami of fondness

This is known as adrenal surge of affection generally called starting gragra and numerous individuals have committed genuine errors mistaking this for the genuine partner.

Numerous individuals have left a promising affair for someone else as an aftereffect of this false feeling,many women have gone too far to get pregnant for a gentleman who does not so much need them amid this stage and a few individuals have decimated their relational unions due to this insane nonexistent feeling while a few men have proposed marriage to ladies amid this stage just to acknowledge recent that what they felt was just
a shaky rush of introductory thunderbolt of a made trust friendship.

Regardless of how insane you feel toward the begin towards that person, please give it time like a
year and ensure you watch that individual definitely for warnings and you will come to know better if what you are feeling is the genuine deal or only a passing, flimsy, tidal veneer called adrenal surge of yearning or affection which i call intial gragra

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10 Facts You (Females) Need Not Be Told About Before Accepting a Proposal

It is the wish of numerous women to get hitched or married, keeping in mind some women are completely prepared, many are absolutely guileless about what lies ahead.

In the wake of saying 'I will' to that man, from my little involvement in life, i present to you 10 things you need not be advised before you say I do to that man.

That regardless of how sweet the man is to you,no matter how minding and sentimental and regardless of what number of prophets let you know he is your
man, that sweet man can swing to a beast in the wake of saying i do, as such what it appears before marriage is never an assurance of what it will be after marriage.

If your man undermines you when you are courting, there is a 90% probability that he will do far more detestable subsequent after wedding you and you require
to get prepared for that.

If your man beats you once, it could be a misstep, however in the event that he beats you the second time then its a propensity he is probably never going to stop.

It regards that you wed a man you have affections for, however it is a shocking thing to wed a man who does not fancy you as much as you
want him.

That in the event that you wed a man as a result of what he has and not due to common love, then be
prepared to be hopeless in that marriage the length of it lasting.

That a man can love you with all his life and will still cheat on you because most men think with that thing down there when it comes to
their feelings for women and are polygamous in nature and no matter how sweet and disciplined you are, it will not stop him from cheating on
you and divorcing a cheating hubby is no guaranty that the next man won't do worse.

As a lady, as long as you are sexually decent, GOD fearing, an excellent cook, financially independent and humble, you
have absolutely nothing to fear because it will be extremely difficult for your man to disrespect you much less divorce you.

That 90% of men who cheat on their wives are not ready to divorce their wives but it is these wives that push the man out with impatience and hot temper so you will need lots of patience to deal with a philanderer
because in most cases,they always come back home after having their feel of the side dishes.

That no man owns the key to your marital happiness except you because most men are the same and no man is worth the stress and as soon as you are married,you should focus on building your life as well as that of your child(ren) .

That there is no right or wrong choice of man but what we have is your choice and what you make out of it and only GOD can guaranty a
happy marriage.

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The Ceaseless Unbalanced Circle Of Affection And How To Avoid It.

In each man-lady relationship, the warmth towards one another is seldom adjusted and this is an impossible to miss attribute that has been on for some numerous years yet there have been no answer for this endless lopsided circle of love.

It is possible that you or your accomplice will dependably feel a tilt in the passionate equalization and you will either see yourself cherishing the fellow so much, however this gentleman being referred to is really infatuated with another woman.

So we see Lora adoring David however David really likes Mary. Mary then again is solemnly infatuated with Paul who have made Mary comprehend a few times that he is love with Cindy who has likewise given same Paul a few notices to back off cos her heart fits in with Jim.

So we can see the insane unbalance in love towards one another yet there have been no known answer to convey this franticness to a rest.

As I would see it, i will basically guidance women who are more at the less desirable end to seek after a gentleman that will feel more love for them than they feel towards him on the grounds that this will promise her bliss in the affair.

A man may adapt to a woman who has lesser love than he accomplishes for her on the grounds that he is a man at any rate and being the commander of the affection vessel, he can simply adapt.

However, for women who are the weaker vessels, supplicate and trust never at any point to experience passionate feelings for a man that has no adjusted affections for you; on the grounds that you are liable to endure extraordinary enthusiastic feelings of despair, on the grounds that this gentleman may not give a hute about you while you keep on anguish just in light of the fact that you are such a great amount in adoration and wild about him.

In any case, for the sad women that are now in an untidy affair where this gentleman feels far lesser affection for them, essentially make conformities where fundamental by:

Giving him space regardless of the fact that this will be hard for you.
Lessen the rate at which you call him.

Try not to stalk him in some case.

Turn down his welcome notwithstanding when you will be at home throughout the day.

Give him false impression that you are going out in the town with another man.

Men contempt being put on relegation and will rapidly have an adjustment in state of mind. Yet, in the event that you are as of now hitched or married to this gentleman, then you can utilize same measures sketched out above asides displaying another man to him.

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A Problem to One is a Problem to All

A mouse looked through the break in the divider to see the rancher and his wife open a bundle. "What nourishment may this contain?" the mouse pondered. He was crushed to find it was a mousetrap.

Withdrawing to the yard, the mouse
broadcasted the notice: "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a
mousetrap in the house!"

The chicken clacked and scratched, raised her head and said, "Mr. Mouse, I can advise this is a grave worry to you, however it is of no result to me. I can't be irritated by it. "

The mouse swung to the pig and let him know, "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!" The pig sympathized, however said, "I am so exceptionally sad, Mr. Mouse, however there is nothing I can do about it yet implore. Be guaranteed you are in my
requests to God."

The mouse swung to the cow and said, "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a mousetrap in the house!" The cow said, "Amazing, Mr. Mouse. I'm sad for you, yet it's no skin off my nose."

Thus, the mouse came back to the house, head down and crestfallen, to confront the agriculturist's mousetrap alone.

That very night a sound was listened all through the house – like the sound of a mousetrap getting its prey. The agriculturist's wife raced to see what was gotten. In the dimness, she didn't see it was a venomous snake whose tail the trap had gotten. The snake bit the farmer's wife.
The farmer surged her to the clinic and she returned home with a fever.

Everybody knows you treat a fever with crisp chicken soup, so the agriculturist took his matchet to the yard for the soup's primary fixing (Chicken). Be that as it may, his wife's affliction proceeded with, so companions and neighbors came to sit with her day and night.

To sustain them, the farmer butchered the pig. The farmer's wife did not get well; she kicked the bucket. Such a large number of individuals sought her memorial service, the farmer had the dairy animals butchered to give enough meat to every one of them.

The mouse looked upon it all from his split in the divider with awesome trouble. Thus, whenever you hear somebody is confronting a
issue and think it doesn't concern you, keep in mind, when one of us is debilitated, we are all at danger.

We are all included in this voyage called life. We must watch out for each other and attempt to
energize each other.
Each of us is a fundamental string in someone else's embroidered artwor

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20 Things You Need to Start Doing

Reaching your target in this struggle-filled world can't be more demanding but with below tips, it could seem less difficult and above all save u from a lot of bitter experiences.

Free yourself from antagonistic individuals.

Relinquish the individuals who are as of now gone.

Give individuals you don't have the foggiest idea about a reasonable possibility.

Show everybody generosity and appreciation.

Acknowledge individuals simply the way they are.

Empower others and cheer for them.

Be your incompletely idealize self.

Excuse individuals and push ahead.

Do seemingly insignificant details each day for others.

Continuously be steadfast.

Stay in better touch with individuals who matter to you.

Stay faithful to your obligations and come clean.

Give what you need to get.

Say what you mean and mean what you say.

Permit others to settle on their own choices.

Talk somewhat less, and listen more.

Allow unimportant contentions to sit unbothered.

Pay consideration on your association with yourself.

Pay consideration on who your genuine companions are.

Overlook unconstructive, destructive discourse.

Pick no less than one of these to concentrate on TODAY, how about we begin rolling out an improvement not simply perusing about change.

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Are You That Type of Woman...?

There is nothing more rare, more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection.

To me, that is the true essence of beauty.
There is an inner beauty about a woman who believes in herself, who knows she is capable of anything that she puts her mind to.
There is a beauty in the strength and determination of a woman who follows her own path, who isn’t
thrown off by obstacles along the way.
There is a beauty about a woman whose confidence comes from experiences; who knows she can fall, pick herself up, and move on.

The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. I have learnt that your mood should not dictate your manners.

I hope you understand?
When a woman loves a man, she wants to be the most important person in his life. When a woman
is committed she wants complete transparency, honesty and loyalty from her man.

Every woman wants her man to love her from his heart and soul. She wants to be desired in many ways. She wants to be with her man in every step of his life so that she can be his biggest support.

A girl needs presents and a woman needs presence.
She feels loved when her man shares his dreams and fantasies with her. She wants her man to
share his emotions, his fears and his laughter with her.
She feels loved when she is appreciated and admired for all her small efforts and gestures.
She will do everything she can to see her man happy.
She actually wants her man to be proud to have her in his life.

To be very honest when a woman
is in love with a man she wants to be. emotionally, soulfully and telepathically connected to him.
Remember, like I do say; being a woman isn't all. about the curves or a pretty face, YOU should also have a functional brain, an enduring spirit and a praying tongue.
Are you that type of woman? Don't live in pretense or a fake life to meet someone's approval. Be yourself. Be the woman God wanted you to be that every man would be proud of.

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Things Every Parent Should Know

1. If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.

2. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you have lost them.

3. If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.

4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.

5. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don't let them choose what they want.

6. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.

7. If your child does not respect other people's feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them.

8. If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour and you give little attention to good behaviour.

9. If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when
they improve at something even if they don't successfully complete it.

10. If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.

11. If your child is openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don't follow through.

12. If your child is secretive, it is because they don't trust that you won't blow things out of proportion.

13. If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think it's normal behaviour.

14. If your child doesn't listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to make decisions.

15. If your child rebels it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right.

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40 Things Every Woman Must Know About Men, Love, Sex and Relationships

Most women learn about men, love, sex and relationships the hard way. They walk down the highly traveled, worn out path of emotional scars, broken hearts, abuse, confusion, anger and sleepless nights. When
it comes to learning the hard way, you can get to know a great deal about men, love, sex and relationships, but most women who have traveled that path will tell you, “The price is too high and the consequences and lingering
effects are way too painful!”

Smart women understand this irrefutable truth.
They know there is an easier less
complicated way to obtain the vital
information they need to know about the opposite sex. Ladies, these 40 nuggets of wisdom and sage advice will help set you on the right path to finding and experiencing true love.

1. There are two types of males:
Dishonorable males and honorable men.
Don’t date or marry until you know how to tell the difference between the two!
The woman in the mirror will graciously thank you.

2. Honorable men are protectors. They will guard your heart, protect your emotions, defend your honor and stand as champions for your spiritual, mental and physical well-
being; choose an honorable man and choose life!

3. You are not a car; if you meet a man who wants to test drive your physical body, emotions and feelings, point him to a car dealership, bid him adieu and don’t look back!

4. This is a true saying: “The soul of a woman is fragile.” Please note: dishonorable males refuse to respect this crucial truth.
They will toy with a woman’s emotions without any semblance of concern or compassion. Therefore YOU must guard your heart from these cold-hearted males with all
diligence.

5. Good men need to be treated like good men, dishonorable males, need to be let go and left alone!

6. OK ladies; you’ve met this great guy, but he's got a child or children for which he does not take care of, provide for or see to. Follow
these instructions to the letter: urgently send him back to the mother(s) of his child(ren) and don’t look back. Don’t make the same
mistake the mother(s) of his child(ren) did!

7. Dishonorable males treat sex as a sport, females as trophies and children they sire as wastepaper. Never allow yourself to become
their next score, mantle piece or sperm repository.

8. Women who hold grudges, seek vengeance, cling to bitterness and are unwilling to forgive, unwittingly break their own hearts!

9. Choose the wrong mate and you might as well have laid next to a boa constrictor or grabbed the ears of a raging mad pit bull. A smart woman learns how to choose her mate wisely!

10. Heed the sage advice of some caring brothers and honorable men. If he doesn’t fit – don’t force him, just relax and let him go.
Destiny is on your side… TRUE LOVE will find you!

11. Momma’s boys belong with only one type of woman; their moms! Ladies, these mothers and their sons will never cut their grotesque umbilical cord. Therefore, for your
sake, leave them alone and just let them trot home to their mommies.

12. Self-love: if you don’t have it, pull
yourself off the market. Make no mistake about it, if you don’t love yourself, NO MAN
can ever love you… no matter how great a man he is.

13. Don’t judge ALL men by one man’s actions; unless you want ALL men to judge you based on the acts of immoral women.

14. Most women learn how to choose a mate the hard way; they go through a gut wrenching string of emotionally detached males, jerks, pimps, thugs and players. Don’t
become one of those heart broken and bitter women! Learn how to properly choose a mate before it’s too late! The woman in the
mirror will graciously thank you.

15. You wondering, “If I move in with him, is he going to marry me?” Answer: “Not likely!”
Don’t believe it, take these two critical tests:
(a). Ask any honorable man! And, (b).
Examine the ever-growing list of disillusioned women who are begrudgingly waiting for their
non-committal live-in lovers to pop the big question.

16. Do you keep attracting men who are dogs? Check the scent you’re putting out.
Men who are dogs are attracted by scent!

17. You are not a man! Therefore, you will never be: a role model for men, a father figure, a man’s mentor or a man’s coach. If a man has lacked proper male leadership in
his life, kindly send him on his way. Know for a certainty; he is not prepared for the responsibilities that come with love, sex, relationship and marriage.

18. If you don’t know what a misogynistic man is, take this time to check your dictionary. For your sake, sanity and safety, avoid these treacherous males at all costs.

19. Don’t ever delude yourself! Your beauty, fine body, sexual prowess, cooking skills, femininity and vibrant personality will never be enough to change a man, NEVER!

20. If your potential mate does such things as: promises to call you but doesn’t, makes dates and breaks them, shows up late or plays games with your emotions; take notes
ladies… those are clear cut warning signs that he DOES NOT value you, he DOES NOT love you and he DOES NOT care about you!

21. Angry, bitter, hostile, combative,
unforgiving single women, become: angry, bitter, hostile and combative, unforgiving wives.

22. A fundamental understanding and respect of the male ego is a must for all women who want a vibrant and healthy love; DO NOT
obtain this crucial information from
dishonorable males or from angry bitter women.

23. If you choose to be with dishonorable males, pimps, players, thugs, ballers and shot callers, you have absolutely no right to complain when they torch your emotions,
abuse you, leave you pregnant and alone, jeopardize your safety and otherwise harm or hurt you. Remember, you have freedom of
choice and you chose to be with them!

24. When a man is trying to find himself, kindly bid him adieu… PERMANENTLY!
He can find you, but can’t find himself? He shouldn't be looking for love… he should be searching
for the map to Mastering Manhood!

25. OK; he wants or is demanding sex but you are not his wife. Write this down: There is no need to wonder, debate or contemplate:
he DOES NOT honor or respect you!

26. Spoiled women are like spoiled milk, spoiled meat, spoiled fruit spoiled bread and spoiled brats. Get the picture? Don’t become a spoiled woman!

27. Expecting a dishonorable male to do the honorable thing is like expecting piranhas not to devour you if you make the mistake of
diving into their water.

28. You’ve asked these questions, “Why doesn’t he call me more often? Why doesn’t he pursue me more diligently and why doesn’t he show me that he loves me?”
Answer; he’s not into you! If you don’t let him go and move on with your life, you will allow him to hinder or block your true love from finding you!

29. All men ARE NOT dogs! Don’t believe, repeat or perpetuate that rampant lie! You will hamper your ability to see and discern the good men who cross your path!

30. Some males like to hit women. It gives them a sense of power and control. If you give yourself to one of these abusive males, most assuredly you will become a punching bag and a floor mat. It is critical that you learn how to detect and avoid these cretins!

31. Promiscuous immoral women are not worthy of an honorable man. They never have been and they never will be.

32. Never allow emotionally embittered women to influence you concerning the male. gender. If you do, their hatred and
unforgiveness will become yours. Soon you will find yourself suspicious, indignant and angry at all men.

33. You were not designed, built or destined for abuse, whether: emotionally, physically or
financially. If he is an abuser, there is no need to deliberate… he IS NOT the one; leave him now!

34. Some women live their lives vicariously through the women on “Girlfriends, Sex In The City and Desperate Housewives.”
Don't become one of these women. If you do, you will make a literal mess of your life, emotions, physical body and well-being.

35. When a man truly loves you, he will honor and respect you. If he doesn’t… don't deceive yourself and don’t allow him to defraud you; he DOES NOT love OR care about you!

36. Everyone has skeletons in their closet?
Wrong! Not everyone has skeletons in their closet. Don’t start putting any in yours!

37. There is a vast difference between sex and love. Most men know the difference and you had better learn it fast! If you fail or
refuse to do so, you are surely headed for relationship or marital crash and burn.

38. Don’t deceive yourself, once you have sex with a man who is not your husband… he may never admit it, but he has lost a degree of respect for you.
Don’t believe it? Ask any honorable man or virtuous woman.

39. The dismal cycle of breaking up and making up only works out in the romance novels, television shows and movies. If you are riding that emotional roller coaster get. off right now! Your heart, mind and soul will
forever thank you.

40. Nothing is more beautiful, captivating, attractive and sensual than a woman with a gentle and peaceable spirit!

Share these life-saving truths with every woman you know. They will forever thank you!

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Let This Story be an Inspiration

There was a man who worked at a meat distribution factory.
One day, when he finished with his work schedule, he went into the meat cold room (freezer) to inspect
something, but in a moment of bad luck, the door closed and he was locked inside with no help in sight,
although he shouted and knocked with all his might, his voice went unheard as no one could hear him.
Most of the workers had already gone, and outside the cold room, its impossible to hear what was going on inside.

Five hours later, while he was on the
point of death, the security guard of the factory eventually opened the door, he got saved from dying that day.

When he later asked the security guard how he had come to open the door which wasn't his usual. work
routine, his explanation was, "I have been working in this factory for 35 years, hundreds of workers come in
and out every day, but you are one of the few who greets me in the morning and say goodbye at
night, many treat me as if am invisible. As you reported for work like all other days, you greeted me but this evening after working hours, I curiously observed that I had not heard your bye, so I decided to check
around the factory.

"I look forward to your hi and bye everyday because they remind me that I am someone. By not hearing
your farewell today, I knew something had happened and I started searching everywhere for you."

MORAL LESSONS:
Be humble, respect and love those
around you.
Try and have an impact on people
who cross your path everyday, you never know what tomorrow will bring.
Let this story be an inspiration to
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Effective Impact- Learn From This Story

Have you ever heard the story of the giant ship engine that failed?
The ship's owners tried one expert after another, but none of them could figure out how to fix the engine.

Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing ships since he was a youngster. He carried a large bag of tools with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work.
He inspected the engine very carefully, top to bottom.
Two of the ship's owners were there, watching this man, hoping he would know what to do. After looking things over, the old man reached into his bag and pulled out a small hammer.

He gently tapped something. Instantly, the engine lurched into
life. He carefully put his hammer away. The engine was fixed!

A week later, the owners received a bill from the old man for ten thousand dollars.
"What?!" the owners exclaimed. "He hardly did anything!"
So they wrote the old man a note saying, "Please send us an itemized bill."

The man sent a bill that read:
Tapping with a hammer ......$ 2.00
Knowing where to tap .......$ 9,998.00
GRAND TOTAL …….…$10,000.00

Moral of the story;
Effort is important, but knowing where to make an effort in your life makes all the difference.
Always have the insight of where to tap whenever you are faced with the
dangers and worrisome situations associated with the decisions of today.

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Bribery is Bribery, Name It What...

I have devoted much time trying to understand and come to term with the nature of humanity but it seems like chasing after the wind.
We have lost all; morality, moderateness and discipline to individual's selfish desires.

To make it seem less offensive and appropriate, we term it with informal words.
What has competitive fee, grant of favour and token for appreciation got to do with upright living.

Let's for once be truthful to ourselves.
You went for a contract and you resolve to pay a bribe in other to get the deal; to coax and make it seem pleasant, you referred it as a competitive fee to show seriousness and competitive attitude.

You got to a filling station and you told the attendant you would grant him a favor of some amount of money to get attended to ahead of others.

You employed a worker and asked him to pay some token as a sign of appreciation.

Which ever way you term it or however less offensive you make it look, a bribe is a bride.

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Does How Long You (Ladies) Take to Accept a Friendship Matter?

By taking eternity to accept a relationship doesn't make you expensive and also accepting a relationship right away doesn't make you cheap. I do understand why some girls have to be that way, and it's for the fear of looking easy and cheap and also attracting weak niggas or you probably think that guys are meant to sweat hard and put in severe effort before they deserve you. Oh you still think like this; Girls are meant to attract guys and guys are meant to put in some effort to get it if they really like it. You wrong. My great sisters, Let go of that dumb mentality, what really make you cheap is what you contribute to the relationship. The truth is that the level of your dependability on your man increases or decreases your worth. I mean your contribution to the relationship does. Demanding too much from a guy you just started dating and allowing him have sex with you... be it immediately after accepting his proposal or regularly in the course of the relationship does... Some girls have lost some good guys all in the name of forming hard to get! Accepting a guy immediately he approached you or you took eternity before accepting him, a guy that will cherish you will!!! I keep saying this, ladies quit watching too much romantic movies. It gives you unrealistic expectations from guys, and same it does to guys that watch porn. All these ruin relationship...

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LOVE OR LUST? WHICH LED TO YOUR MARRIAGE.

After some months of marriage, you are then struck with the arrows of reality.
He doesn't seem to be what I had known him to.
She's not totally what I had expected.
He pays less attention to me now.
She is no better than other ladies.

But some months back you said these to her or him;
You are my everything...
I can't do without you...
My world is meaningless without you...
You are my life...

Were you dreaming when you said these.
I do understand why there's so many broken homes today...
When love or lust is gone, the two bodies are exposed to all imperfections.

Get this, there will be a time in your married life when those feelings won't feel like it again as stated from the beginning, marrying some one only because you love him or her is a lame excuse.
Marriage is more than a mere love conviction.
Did you check his or her approach to life, his or her driving force, his or her relationship with others. If he or she has the same vision as yours. There must be a meeting point of ideas from both partners. Then other differences is loved-up or covered by love.

Without this, you might end up marrying out of lust.
Today society has made it even difficult to tell lust from love. A man or woman shouldn't be judged by physical appearance only but of inside.
Sadly many don't have much going inside but outside.
If you consider outside before inside, you are actually taking to the direction of lust.
Beauty is in vain.
Charm is deceit.

Remember:
There will be a time when those emotions won't feel like... What will you do then?
And you probably ain't the only one he or she is passionate about.
Also that a failed Marriage is a humiliating confirmation of transitory of flesh or lust

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WHO'S THE BOSS, CHILDREN OR PARENTS.

With the ever increasing influence of children over parents in numerous homes today, one can't help but ask who's the boss.
But what's the reason behind parents relinquishing authority to children as increasing common in today homes.
My conviction for this is civilization, parents resolved to being a friend but not an authority figure to the children which is encouraged in the modern home for a reason or the other, primarily to avoid their children from resenting them.
Surprisingly, every child has a self esteem, how did this come to be?

Experts claim, rather than correct the bad, catch your children in the act of doing good which only implies making them feel good.
Now tell me, do you rather prefer a child to feel good to a child being good.
No doubt it's necessary to instill confidence in children but the self esteem encouragement on children seems to be taking an odd direction.
Keep telling your children they're special and they can be whatever they wish to be.
And this has made many children feel entitled to everything and render them clueless about the reality.
If you haven't seem this, I have. A child let's say junior was asked to stop a particular thing but he countered he won't stop.
And you probably want to instill that order by the parent, the parent would beg you to leave him alone before he starts...
Starts what?
His tantrum she would say.

Junior insisted on getting a particular toy he saw at market even though he has many at home, and his parent gave in simply to avoid his tantrum.

Junior's hot-headed behavior caused him to damage a property belonging to another, instead of bringing discipline to action, you rather say in a mild voice, Junior you have seen what you have caused?

In fact there was a girl who was so used to crying nonstop at home but doesn't do that at school. When I asked her why, she said there's no one who would tell her sorry in the school.

What are your children learning?
You are simply instilling that child that he's comfort is your priority and you can do anything to get it done. But you don't know you're making yourself vulnerable to the child's demand.
Don't you think with time your children will come to think you're only there to serve their needs.
Don't you think your children will have the impression that you will bend to their demands with their tantrum.

Why praise your child even when he has done nothing praiseworthy. You feel that once they feel special, they now have the confidence to succeed in life. That's wrong.

I know parenting is a hard work but it's even harder if you allow the children to be the boss.

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