With the ever increasing influence of children over parents in numerous homes today, one can't help but ask who's the boss.
But what's the reason behind parents relinquishing authority to children as increasing common in today homes.
My conviction for this is civilization, parents resolved to being a friend but not an authority figure to the children which is encouraged in the modern home for a reason or the other, primarily to avoid their children from resenting them.
Surprisingly, every child has a self esteem, how did this come to be?
Experts claim, rather than correct the bad, catch your children in the act of doing good which only implies making them feel good.
Now tell me, do you rather prefer a child to feel good to a child being good.
No doubt it's necessary to instill confidence in children but the self esteem encouragement on children seems to be taking an odd direction.
Keep telling your children they're special and they can be whatever they wish to be.
And this has made many children feel entitled to everything and render them clueless about the reality.
If you haven't seem this, I have. A child let's say junior was asked to stop a particular thing but he countered he won't stop.
And you probably want to instill that order by the parent, the parent would beg you to leave him alone before he starts...
Starts what?
His tantrum she would say.
Junior insisted on getting a particular toy he saw at market even though he has many at home, and his parent gave in simply to avoid his tantrum.
Junior's hot-headed behavior caused him to damage a property belonging to another, instead of bringing discipline to action, you rather say in a mild voice, Junior you have seen what you have caused?
In fact there was a girl who was so used to crying nonstop at home but doesn't do that at school. When I asked her why, she said there's no one who would tell her sorry in the school.
What are your children learning?
You are simply instilling that child that he's comfort is your priority and you can do anything to get it done. But you don't know you're making yourself vulnerable to the child's demand.
Don't you think with time your children will come to think you're only there to serve their needs.
Don't you think your children will have the impression that you will bend to their demands with their tantrum.
Why praise your child even when he has done nothing praiseworthy. You feel that once they feel special, they now have the confidence to succeed in life. That's wrong.
I know parenting is a hard work but it's even harder if you allow the children to be the boss.
But what's the reason behind parents relinquishing authority to children as increasing common in today homes.
My conviction for this is civilization, parents resolved to being a friend but not an authority figure to the children which is encouraged in the modern home for a reason or the other, primarily to avoid their children from resenting them.
Surprisingly, every child has a self esteem, how did this come to be?
Experts claim, rather than correct the bad, catch your children in the act of doing good which only implies making them feel good.
Now tell me, do you rather prefer a child to feel good to a child being good.
No doubt it's necessary to instill confidence in children but the self esteem encouragement on children seems to be taking an odd direction.
Keep telling your children they're special and they can be whatever they wish to be.
And this has made many children feel entitled to everything and render them clueless about the reality.
If you haven't seem this, I have. A child let's say junior was asked to stop a particular thing but he countered he won't stop.
And you probably want to instill that order by the parent, the parent would beg you to leave him alone before he starts...
Starts what?
His tantrum she would say.
Junior insisted on getting a particular toy he saw at market even though he has many at home, and his parent gave in simply to avoid his tantrum.
Junior's hot-headed behavior caused him to damage a property belonging to another, instead of bringing discipline to action, you rather say in a mild voice, Junior you have seen what you have caused?
In fact there was a girl who was so used to crying nonstop at home but doesn't do that at school. When I asked her why, she said there's no one who would tell her sorry in the school.
What are your children learning?
You are simply instilling that child that he's comfort is your priority and you can do anything to get it done. But you don't know you're making yourself vulnerable to the child's demand.
Don't you think with time your children will come to think you're only there to serve their needs.
Don't you think your children will have the impression that you will bend to their demands with their tantrum.
Why praise your child even when he has done nothing praiseworthy. You feel that once they feel special, they now have the confidence to succeed in life. That's wrong.
I know parenting is a hard work but it's even harder if you allow the children to be the boss.
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