The Power of Reputation

That girl down the street is a whore, many people concluded. But have they caught her sleeping with numerous guys, not likely but yet this very perception by the society about her leaves her at a lot of disadvantage.
Have you ever heard about the guy down the street who is a player?
There is probably one on every street. You probably know a guy who has a reputation for sleeping with his dates but have you ever caught him sleeping with anyone?
It's what people say and your perception of who he is based on his lifestyle, but you cannot say for  certain that he is promiscuous. Even if this guy never had sex with any of his dates, his lifestyle suggested that he did.
Based on what they see, people will conclude that he is promiscuous and this will tarnish his reputation.

Reputation is people's perception about one. It's also one's credibility in the society. It may be good or bad but it plays a major role in one's social life and career as well.

You can't force people to have a positive perception about you and that is something money can't buy.
How you're perceived determines how you will be treated at large. If you're seen to be a productive, creative, devoted, professional and hardworking person, many companies would like to work with you, but if you're seen as a lazy, compromising and unproductive person, good companies out there wouldn't want to work with you.

No one would like to be identified with you or lest, he would be seen the way you're regarded. Anyone who will associate with you will be your kind or they merely need something from you. Reputation can be a blessing or a curse, this calls for total consideration of our actions and lifestyle.

We seem to favor a particular product over another of the same kind on the ground of what we think they can do based on what see on the advertisement and what people say about the product. If we eventually put this products to test, they may fall below our expectations, yet we keep buying them because of their reputation. This is the practical influence of good reputation.

When one's seen as an honest, faithful and responsible person, you can possibly vow for him and will rise and defend him  when in trouble. Some see this as favor but it's the work of good reputation.

In all life endeavour, you first of all create a good reputation, then a good reputation creates a great future for you. Never create doubts in people's minds. Stand and live as whom you profess to be.
Consistency with your values will give you a good reputation.

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Beauty- A Blessing that Could Become a Curse. A Must Read For Every Single Lady

Every lady is outwardly beautiful in her own unique way but this piece is about ladies who know they are endowed with outward beauty and i mean ladies whose beauty will make heads turn.
I have seen many ladies flaunt their endowments yet no man is willing to have most of them as wives and I kept wondering what could be wrong.

I have come to know that guys are wiser now and a reasonable man will not mind marrying a humble respectful reserved super ugly lady rather than have a manner-less and sharp tongued sex symbol as a wife but would rather bleep and dump such.

You get several likes in no time whenever you display your pics on social media and they call you Hot girl’, pretty girl’, sexy girl’ yet no man can stay with you neither can you stay with any-man because of your lack of manners and regard for men. Of what use is your outward beauty if you are still single at a marriageable age when the assumed less beautiful ladies are settling down happily and quickly?

This has nothing to do with mockery in anyway but let's face it. Is it not funny that a lady so endowed with physical beauty will remain single in her thirties or even late twenties?
Definitely something must be wrong somewhere and most times if checked we will realize that these ladies are the cause and has nothing to do with men.

Most hot chics are arrogant, proud,impatient.too picky,disrespectful and always eager to turn down men or break up promising relationships because their beauty easily controls them and they believe a new man will always come around in no time.

More pathetic is the fact that many hot chics seem to believe they can achieve more in life with their physical beauty rather than hard work or even academic qualifications.We can see such in many tertiary institutions and business organizations whoring their way up their career ladder or to get good grades.
Most of these hot chics as they call them are intellectually dumb and i begin to wonder if their hotness is actually an exchange for their brains.

Many of them can not hold up intelligent conversations but are always mostly concerned about fashion and very eager to expose their body shamelessly for the world to see forgetting that by so doing,they are shutting the doors of their life to responsible men while attracting those who are only interested in sampling the product they are advertising.

And after it dawns on them how reckless they have been,they usually come up with these defensive consolatory lines that "Everybody has a past,They are happy the way they are,marriage is not for everyone,i don't need marriage to be happy" but they secretely cry inside and wished they can turn back the hands of time.

Yes your looks will win you so many men; both the good, and the bad, but your inner beauty, your character and manner are the things that will determine whether any of those men would stay or run after accomplishing their missions.

The dumbest thing i have heard a hot chic say is "I'm so hot that at least 10 men approach me in a week"
NEWS FLASH! : A thousand men can approach you in one month yet none of these men will be interested in walking you down the Aile but will only use your sorry ass and dump you.

On the final note please let this sink into your brain.."If you think you are too hot to be with one man then be ready to be sampled by many men..the choice is all yours.
Be reasonable and understand that there is a thin line between when your beauty becomes a blessing or a curse on you...be wise.

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Your Pain, A Pointer To Your Destiny

What makes you break down and make you wish that you should do something about a
particular situation even when you might not be able to do anything at that point.
Now i don't mean pain like the general pain you feel when something bad happens to you or around you. I mean the pain that you can't just adjustyourself to resist.

It comes from the deepest part of your heart and yet the person beside you cannot feel any hurt for an issue like that.
What do you think that made a well brought
up, affluent, privileged son of the Princess kill
another man not minding the outcome of it?
PAIN!!!
He was hurt seeing his fellow people in pain anddistress, no wonder God sent him(Moses) back to deliver them(Israelites) from the hands of Pharoah.

Listen, this pain can be for anything. Walt
Disney had this same pain for low quality
Amusement Parks with fake carousels and of
course you know what he did; Disneyland. This pain can be for seeing people intimidated,
seeing people under bondage, seeing blind
people, hearing about corruption, dirty
environment, hearing about theft in your
country. It just kindles in you an unusual
anger that nobody else can explain but you.

For example, honestly you can't tell the pain i feel when i see 'Mediocrity' and 'Ignorance' in
display. I just hate Ignorance and Mediocrity.
I mean I HATE it. Funny enough, i care less whether the whole street is filled with mud and pure water sachet. I don't feel any pain aboutit. Am just not designed for Environmental Care.

Someone else can enter a city and feel
like walking through the whole place to pick
litters from the ground. We have different
pains for different things. Find yours!
Of course God Almighty too felt pain when he
saw humans being destroyed under the
dominion of the devil and he did something
about it for sure; He sent Jesus Christ. (I just
love this part). Find out what pains you most in life, its a pointer to the problems you were
created to solve.

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What Happens When You Don't Know The Time To Adjust And Confront

Put a frog in a vessel of water and begin warming the water. As the temperature of the water rises, the frog can adjust its body temperature accordingly. The frog continues adjusting with rise in temperature.

Exactly when the water is going to achieve boiling point, the frog is not ready to adjust any longer.

By then the frog chooses to jump out. The frog tries to hop yet can't do as such, on the ground that it has lost its entire being in adjusting with the rising water temperature...
Very soon the frog dies.

What killed the frog?

Large number of us would say the boiling water, yet the fact of the matter is the thing that killed the frog was its own powerlessness to choose when it needed to jump out.

We all need to change or adjust with individuals and circumstances, however we should make sure when we have to modify or adjust and when we have to defy, Confront or face.

There are times when we have to confront the circumstance and make the move.

In the event that we permit individuals to adventure us physically, rationally, candidly or fiscally, they will keep on doing so...We need to choose when to bounce.

Let us jump while we have the strength...

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Who is a Role Model And How They Influence Us

I asked a young lady one time who she gazed upward to as a role model and she said 'Kim Kardashian'.

Before I began laughing(because I chuckled genuine great), I inquired her what's more, I couldn't comprehend why she would take Kim as a role model in light of the fact that they don't have anything in common(facially).

I came to get it that she really didn't know whom a role model is.
A good example is a "model" of the
"part" that you were intending to play on earth.

A good example is somebody who is now living in your future. He or She is somebody who is doing something you were made to do.

Presently, every man has somebody who "actually" rouses them whether he or she is rich or poor. That man whose life makes you buckle up is your good example.

When you hear or see somebody who is really your role model, you see your future in them. On the off chance that you can completely check your heart and figure out who that individual is that regardless of the fact that he is poor, you would at present admire admire to do what he or her is doing, at that point whatever that individual is doing is a pointer whatever you were made to do.

I was addressing deliberately on a speech in a secondary school and I asked the understudies about their good examples, numerous called off-screen characters and also, on-screen characters; in the mean time those ones can't indeed, even act a typical "dozing" scene before a three-man group of onlookers.

When you have a part model, you can do whatever you see him do and that is the thing that persuades you. The book of scriptures says 'profound calleth unto profound' (psalms42:7). When you refer to that man that is your mirror, then whatever you find in him is the thing that you were made to be.

For me to have a footballer or a a Performer as a role model is stupidity to the furthest.
When you have a genuine good example, you MUST have something in like manner. When I see men like Sam Adeyemi, Fela Durotoye, David
Oyedepo, John Maxwell and so on. I get roused and spurred. They touch off something within.

They are living in "my" future. Presently, you as well have such individuals throughout your life, whatever such individuals are doing is a "pointer" to what you are expected to do.

How about we go to the book of scriptures please; Elisha was from a
rich family, why did he take after Elijah, Joshua was an Ephraimite why did he take after a Levite (Moses), why did Matthew leave his legislature work to take after Jesus, why did Timothy take after Paul, and at last why do we christians have Jesus as our good example; on the grounds that when you see somebody who is doing what you where destined to do; it blends up something inside you that you can't simply overlook. You will be actually enlivened.

The inquiry is, in whose "present" do you see your "future" paying little respect to the cash?
Presently, that paper you composed those 20 things that are your obsession and have striked out those that are not your torment, the staying ones, locate the ones that are joined with both your gifts and your good examples then you are a step closer to finding your motivation in life.

Credit: Chiazoka Obinwa

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Who is a Role Model And How They Influence Us?

I asked a young lady one time who she gazed upward to as a role model and she said 'Kim Kardashian'.

Before I began laughing(because I chuckled genuine great), I inquired her of what's more, I couldn't comprehend why she would take
Kim as a good example in light of the fact that they don't have anything in common(facially).

I came to get it that she really didn't know whom a role model is.
A good example is a "model" of the"part" that you were intending to play on earth.

A good example is somebody who is now living in your future. He or she is somebody who is doing something you were made to do.

Presently, every man has somebody who "actually" rouses them whether he or she is rich or poor. That man whose life makes you buckle up is your good example.

When you hear or see somebody who is really your role model, you see your future in them. On the off chance that you can completely check your heart and figure out who that individual is, regardless of the fact that he is poor, you would at present admire to do what he or her is doing, at that point whatever that individual is doing is a pointer to whatever you were made to do.

I was addressing deliberately on a discourse in a secondary school and I asked the understudies about there role models, numerous called off-screen characters and also, on-screen characters; in the mean time those ones can't indeed, even act a typical "dozing" scene before a three-man group of onlookers.

When you have a part model, you can do whatever you see him do and that is the thing that persuades you. The book of scriptures says 'profound calleth unto profound' (psalms42:7). When you refer to that man that is your mirror, then whatever you find in him is the thing that you were made to be.

For me to have a footballer or a Performer as a role model is stupidity to the furthest.
When you have a genuine good example, you MUST have something in like manner. When I see men like Sam Adeyemi, Fela Durotoye, David
Oyedepo, John Maxwell and so on. I get roused and spurred. They touch off something within.

They are living in "my" future. Presently, you as well have such individuals throughout your life, whatever such individuals are doing is a "pointer" to what you are expected to do.

How about we go to the book of scriptures please; Elisha was from a
rich family, why did he take after Elijah, Joshua was an Ephraimite why did he take after a Levite (Moses), why did Matthew leave his legislature work to take after Jesus, why did Timothy take after Paul, and at last why do we christians have Jesus as our good example; on the grounds that when you see somebody who is doing what you where destined to do; it blends up something inside you that you can't simply overlook. You will be actually enlivened.

The inquiry is, in whose "present" do you see your "future" paying little respect to the cash?
Presently, that paper you composed those 20 things that are your obsession and have striked out those that are not your torment, the staying ones, locate the ones that are joined with both your gifts and your good examples then you are a step closer to finding your motivation in life.

Credit: Chiazoka Obinwa

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Do You Have Lament Issues?

At a point, your brain irritates you with the "what ifs".
Yet, you have to settle on a decision,
furthermore, if the decision you made turned out to be wrong, you begin being sorry.
It is hard to go over with second thoughts or regrets.

You may have picked your calling of the man or lady that you cherish. You might have committed a child rearing error that brought about your tyke to abhor you. You quit your profession with another one which at last ended up being a losing profession.

At the point when these things happen you just need so awful to turn back the hands of time so you can settle on your decisions once more.

Regrets possess a significant space in our psyches, enough to irritate our life. This is particularly valid for the individuals who are inclined to over the top deduction like me. There were times when I squandered an excess of hours of my day in regret over huge and even little decisions that include the ordinary situations in life like vocation, child rearing, and those identified with connections.

We will dependably have laments, however we have to discover approaches to abstain from permitting these second thoughts to make a permanent imprint in our lives, particularly in our
connections.

Here are a portion of the things I've
done and will keep on doing at whatever point I fall into the hands of "disappointments".

1. Transform laments into goodness: We can never turn back the hands of time. In this way, on the off chance that you picked profession over the lady or man you had always wanted, make revises by adoring the following lady or man in your live with your entire being, soul and psyche. Be the best being you can ever be.

2. Rehearse the Peacefulness Petition to God: "acknowledge the
things you can't change, change the things you can, and attempt your best to recognize the two." I am yet to locate an impeccable guardian.
Try not to obsess about your child rearing errors that brought on a break in your association with your
child or little girl. Rather than struggling with your oversights, change the things you can. Attempt your best next time. Rather than saying, "If just I did various things... " begin saying "Next time, I will do various things... "

3. Compose your second thoughts in a bit of paper, then blaze it: Clinicians say that when you work out what you should do, you have better changes of deleting it from your psyche. I did this; I blazed my second thoughts, and it was an extraordinary feeling!

4. Keep in mind that nobody is great: We will at last commit an error, one way or the other. Quit beating yourself for a blunder you've made. What is critical is that you settled on a decision and took the danger; you moved out of your solace
zone to have a go at something new. Danger could bring about missteps. Be that as it may, chance likewise opens up the difficulties and opportunities that could prompt victory.

5. Life squares with issues: Regardless of the possibility that you made the right decision, issues can at present emerge. That is just the way it is; that is only the way life is. Making the right decision is not a flush and rehash sort of business achievement. Life carries with it the
situation, "once in a while you lose, now and again you win." Along these lines, to abstain from being repentant, acknowledge this unavoidable truth.

6. Try not to accuse yourself, other individuals, or even occasions: Change your musings of "If just," to
"Today or now, I will... " Spotlight on the present furthermore, the future; don't harp on your past.

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